Shhh, It's a Secret: Why Stars Keep Their Relationships Quiet

By Jo Piazza Posted Nov 27th 2009 05:00PM

Why are celebrities oh so coy talking about their romantic relationships? Do they really think their non-denial denials and their excuses and proclamations that their love life is nobody's business make us lose interest. You know why it is our business...because you're famous and ultimately we pay your bills.

After the jump, PopEater takes a look at why Kate Hudson, Kristen Stewart and Penelope Cruz stay so quiet about the men in their lives.

Want to know what we mean? Watch Kate Avoid Oprah's Simple "How'd You Meet A-Rod" Questions Around the 5:30 Mark:

Even if a celeb admits to having a relationship, they hate answering that age-old "So how did you meet?" question. You didn't meet on Mars, so just tell us that some other famous person introduced you or that your agents thought it would be a good idea for you to get together or you met while doing something only famous people get to do.

Last week, Kate Hudson tried to proffer Oprah Winfrey (Oprah!!) a "no comment" when the talk show host asked how she and boy toy Alex Rodriguez met. And even though the pair have been smooching all over New York City, Hudson said..."I always feel weird. It's a thing." Kudos to Oprah for being as irritated as we all are. "At least say how you met," Opes demanded. "Because I was going to ask you are you house hunting and are you engaged?"

Best of all Hudson seemed shocked...just shocked that out of everything Oprah would choose to ask her to talk about her relationship with one of the most famous professional athletes in the world.

"I get the whole 'romantic life is private' thing, bit come on! Kate Hudson not saying her and A-Rod are a thing is like Ashlee Simpson denying a nose job. The jig is up, your fans aren't stupid," explains PopWrap's Ryan Brockington.

"Secondly, No one says no to the big O. I'm surprised Oprah let her get away with it. I think most celebs act like they don't want to talk about 'it' so 'it' stays all mysterious."

"New Moon" star Kristen Stewart claimed to 'Entertainment Tonight,' that she can't talk about her relationship with co-star Robert Pattinson because she needs to "protect" herself.

"The only way that I'm able to stay sane is to protect myself, and like, I know that it doesn't matter how you answer a question, it's going to tip," Stewart said.

What exactly is she protecting herself from is the question?

And last week on the David Letterman show Penelope Cruz dodged questions about her relationship with hunky Javier Bardem when Dave began prying.

"I don't feel comfortable talking about my private life in public," she said, and there wasn't even a language barrier!

"A lot of celebrities do it because it makes them more interesting. Being coy about it makes us talk about celebrities more," explains radio host, psychologist and author of "The Cult of Celebrity" Cooper Lawrence. "For other celebrities they feel that so much of their life has become public they have nothing left that is private and what's more private than what goes on in the bedroom?"

At the end of the day fans aren't asking their favorite boldfacers to take a flip cam into their bedrooms. We just want to know where you went on your first date. And when you will move in together, get married and have babies. It isn't oh so much to ask.

Tags: alex rodriguez, AlexRodriguez, Javier Bardem, JavierBardem, Kate Hudson, KateHudson, kristen stewart, KristenStewart, oprah winfrey, OprahWinfrey, penlope cruz, PenlopeCruz, robert pattinson, RobertPattinson

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Saturday 28 November

By Diana

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Its really no ones business whos dating who. As far as Kate, we all know why she keeps her dates quiet now. The media talked a lot about all her knew guys, and the list kept growing. The list was very long.

By cconnick

I totally agree. What Kate Hudson and her professional peers owe us is a good performance, nothing more. These people have a right to a private life, just like everyone else. The celebrity voyeurism of the last couple of decades is intrusive, pathetic and just plain sad.

By joe

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WHATEVER DIANA

Monday 30 November

By Mel

Well - I'm just glad she left Adam Scott alone or Adam Scott left her alone. Never did like her in the first place and Adam can do much better than her.

By olbamagrama

well, in a way it is our business. When it is the public/fans money contributing to the "stars" lifestyle, they sort of belong to the public...YES, they are entitled to a certain amount of privacy, but, on the other hand why seek fame and fortune unless you want a very public life?

By Joe

I agree with you 110%

Sunday 29 November

By rockholder20

OLBAMAGRAMA...GET A LIFE!!!!

By dolbai

How did you meet is not an intrusive question. It's something you'd ask any couple and typically 99% of normal couples would be happy to tell you. Her reluctance to answer that question made me think she had something to hide which is ultimately her business and I really don't care about either of them.

By htc

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Hudson should have just told that fat-assed Oprah to mind her own fuc*ing business and stick to questions that are appropriate for public consumption.

By Raejean

The writer of this article opines that stars are obliged to share details of their private lives because the public pays their bills? What a load of effing presumptuous codswallop.

Since we are customers of AOL news, and you write for them and have a byline, we pay YOUR bills. You can start showing your gratitude to us by giving us all the gory details about who you are boffing this week and who you are planning to boff next. After all, you OWE us something more than doing your job, right? Right????? Hurry up, don't be coy, we might lose interest!

By warnerc23

The only people who think they're entitled to a celebrities life are people who have no life of their own. I could care less about Kate Hudson or who she or any celebrity is dating. I'm glad that there are some who don't talk about it because it makes them have some normalcy when they can have a private life. If I were famous I wouldn't talk about it either.

By tori

Hey, if your want to be a celebrity of any kind and are looking for fans to buy tickets to your movies or watch you on tv you owe them something. Without us these so called stars wouldn't have two dimes to put together. You loose your right to most privacy when you strut yourself around for all to see. Kate Hudson has been with numerous men(in a short period of time) so why she'd suddenly shy away is ridiculous. Kudos for Oprah for going there and tuff luck to Kate, she ain't all that!!!!

By charles

Its not like they trying to be discreet about who they doing after all they know their fans want some info.

By Theresamt

It truly amazes me that Oprah has the gaul to ask questions that she won't answer about her own life. The interview was suppose to be about a movie.

By Gail E. Cooper

Cooper Lawrence really nailed it! Many of these so-called relationships are nothing more than a public relationship gimmick to keep certain people in the public eye and nothing more. Celebrities who really want their relationships to work, avoid over exposure. Many of them really value their privacy and they are entitled to do so. Celebrities who don't want constant media coverage know how to avoid it. Others thrive on it, whether it's good or bad.

By TWILA

WELL, IF NOBODY CARED ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND INTERESTED IN THEIR LOVE LIFE WE PROBABLY WOULDN'T BE PAYING TO SEE THEIR MOVIES EITHER. I DON'T GIVE A RAT'S ASS WHAT LINDSAY LOHAN IS DOING AND I DON'T SEE HER MOVIES. HOWEVER, THEY ARE REALLY ONLY OBLIGED TO GIVE US OUR MONEY'S WORTH IN THEIR PERFORMANCE. I AM A FLT ATT AND IT WOULD BE LIKE A PASSENGER ASKING ME PERSONAL QUESTIONS AND THEN WHEN I DIDN'T ANSWER SAYING "I PAY YOUR BILLS SO YOU OWE ME SOME ANSWERS". NO, I ONLY HAVE TO GIVE YOU GOOD SERVICE......YOU ARE PAYING FOR THE RIDE! WHEN YOU ARE CONSTANTLY ASKED THE SAME QUESTIONS OVER AND OVER IT MAKES YOU CONTRARY AND REBELLOUS. WE ARE JUST CURIOUS AND PROBABLY HAVE BORING LIVES SO WANT TO LIVE THROUGH THEM......ALL THAT MONEY, FAME, GOOD LOOKS. NICE PACKAGE.

By jmuzikmon

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Hey Jo when you wrote this tripe about we are paying her salary...well we pay yours and I want to know if your all kinky with your beau??!! Where did you both meet? Got any tats or birthmarks? Do you take it up the... never mind I don't want to know that. But really, what kind of rational is that?? You and us are no more entitled to private information of celebrities lives than we are privy to yours. Clean that brown stuff off your ears when you pull your head out of there.

By Aprilxxi

The only thing these actors owe us is a good product when they perform. That's all we pay for, their product, not their lives.

By SamBlob

Hear, hear!

By Barbara

I really cant stand That Justin Timberlake He does look gay and I heard He was laughing at Britney Spears When She went through Her meltdown So as far as I am concerned He is not sexy hes an ass, Anyone Who would brake up With Britney Spears must be a few bricks short and He seems To be Hisw own Biggest fan Full of Himself . He needs to Go back to the Mickey Mouse club Where He came from

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