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John Mayer 'Loves Black Women,' Offends Everyone

By Brooke Tarnoff Posted Feb 10th 2010 07:44PM

Right about now, John Mayer is surely wishing he'd used his mouth for a little more singing and a little less candid chatter. Mayer has taken heat today for some crude remarks made in a new Playboy interview. Among other overshares, the singer told the magazine that ex-girlfriend Jessica Simpson was his "sexual napalm."

"That girl is like crack cocaine to me," Mayer said.

But if you think it's in poor taste to discuss the particulars of his sex life with Simpson, buckle up -- it gets worse. A casual inclusion of the 'N' word has launched a flurry of Twitter-apologies, but here at PopEater, we think the racial slur was just the tip of the inappropriate iceberg. After the jump, we look at what Mayer said and why his apology falls short.

The singer boasted, "I come on very strong. I am a very... I'm just very. V-E-R-Y. And if you can't handle very, then I'm a douche bag. But I think the world needs a little very. That's why black people love me."

Asked to clarify his definition of "very," Mayer made the unfortunate word choice: "Someone asked me the other day, 'What does it feel like now to have a hood pass?' And by the way, it's sort of a contradiction in terms, because if you really had a hood pass, you could call it a n**** pass. Why are you pulling a punch and calling it a hood pass if you really have a hood pass? But I said, 'I can't really have a hood pass' I've never walked into a restaurant, asked for a table and been told, 'We're full.'"

Mayer used his Twitter page to offer a series of apologies, writing: "Re: using the 'N word' in an interview: I am sorry that I used the word. And it's such a shame that I did because the point I was trying to make was in the exact opposite spirit of the word itself. It was arrogant of me to think I could intellectualize using it, because I realize that there's no intellectualizing a word that is so emotionally charged."

He continued, "And while I'm using today for looking at myself under harsh light, I think it's time to stop trying to be so raw in interviews. It started as an attempt to not let the waves of criticism get to me, but it's gotten out of hand and I've created somewhat of a monster. I wanted to be a blues guitar player. And a singer. And a songwriter. Not a shock jock. I don't have the stomach for it."

Mayer concluded, "Because I don't want anyone to think I'm equivocating: I should have never said the word and I will never say it again."

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We're not certain we buy the excuse that Mayer has been too relaxed in interviews -- we've had any number of casual conversations without throwing around racial epithets -- but we appreciate Mayer's attempt at sincerity. What we don't appreciate is his failure to address any of his other, equally offensive words.

Mayer told Playboy that he has not been open to the sexual advances of the black women who so adore him: "My d*** is sort of like a white supremacist. I've got a Benetton heart and a f*****' David Duke c***. I'm going to start dating separately from my d***."

It's not, he insisted, that black women aren't attractive -- especially if they act white.

"Every white dude loved Hilary from 'The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.' Kerry Washington. She's superhot, and she's also white-girl crazy," he said. "Kerry Washington would break your heart like a white girl. Just all of a sudden she'd be like, 'Yeah, I sucked his d***. Whatever.' And you'd be like, 'What? We weren't talking about that.'"

"Edgy" is Mayer's bread and butter in interviews. Just last week, the singer was quoted by the New York Post as saying, "When I get married that's gonna be my vows, 'Do you, John Mayer, take this woman to have and to hold, to wear her ass like headgear?' Yes, I do -- you're the one whose ass I wanna wear like a hat for the rest of my life."

In an interview with Rolling Stone in January, Mayer introduced his views on the kind of woman he'd settle down with. "You need to have them be able to go toe-to-toe with you intellectually. But don't they also have to have a vagina you could pitch a tent on and just camp out on for, like, a weekend? The Joshua Tree of vaginas? ... I'll be happy when I close out this life-partner thing. Think of how much mental capacity I'm using to meet the right person so I can stop giving a f--- about it."

After musing on whether the Rolling Stone piece might have gone too far, Mayer tweeted, "I say 'f--- it.' You can't go wrong if you tell the truth."

So was the Playboy interview an ambitious attempt-gone-awry by the man who dubbed himself "the new generation of masturbator" to break his own record of irreverence? Or did Mayer, at his most "raw," betray something uglier than we could have suspected in all of his previous "shock jock" interviews?

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Wednesday 10 February

By JaguarDriver

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John Mayer is a idiot. He needs to shut his mouth...no talking, no singing.

Wednesday 10 February

By bridge

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oh john,i am so V-E-R-Y DISS-APPOINTED....WOW.

Wednesday 10 February

By RMI

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Mayer and Kanye in a tub of green jello, 5 rounds. Loser keeps his yap shut...winner keeps his shut longer.

Wednesday 10 February

By Gramma

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As a retired school bus driver and 12 yrs a crossing guard, all grades from 1st to 12th, that "N" word is used just like the, it, stop, go, etc. All conversations I heard were loaded with that word. It is just naturally part of the conversations the blacks and the whites use. Listen to the teens music, that word is used over and over, there isnt any place to get away from it and it still makes my blood boil every time I hear it used, be it a black or white using it........................Gramma

Wednesday 10 February

By Gary G.

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asswipe

Wednesday 10 February

By elei

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I used to like some of his songs , but never really liked him too much. after reading this though I definitely have no reason to be a fan at all. He thinks he is superior? WTF ..Oh well ! Talking about his sex life regarding a girlfriend who is also well known..is pretty seedy to say the least! He isn't even sexy himself and who does that anyway! Personal life means it is personal and private ! What an idiot!

Wednesday 10 February

By Ursula

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I am sorry I wasted my time watching his story teller special. I plan to break all my cd's and never listen to John Maher again. How's that for a black girl that acts white

Wednesday 10 February

By mpdlad

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As if the use of the n word was not bad enough he goes on to say that although he finds black women attractive he can not get physically aroused by them. Next time just say "I am not a racist...some of my best friends are black"

Wednesday 10 February

By DonnA

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And this idiot is what all these woman are going crazy for. Ladies you need to move on he is nothing but a sleaze bag and if you date him and even think he is hot you are the stupid one.

Wednesday 10 February

By souldust

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John Mayer is crazy! I do understand some of what he is saying. I am not offended by most of it. (And I am a sister girl) I hate to hear the N word used by anyone and I don't use it.
It just sounds like a guy who needs to think twice, maybe three times before he opens his mouth. And...who cares if he doesn't likes black girls. He can be attracted to whoever. Just like me, I am not attracted to white men...but there are always exceptions! Never say never!

Wednesday 10 February

By mayo

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exactly

Wednesday 10 February

By Ms. Bytch

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I agree with you souldust. To each his own...I am black and I am not attracted to black men at all. People are too damn sensitive.

Sunday 21 March

By Pablo

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I guess he's a terrible guy because he can't help whom he's sexually attracted to. Who can? Big Deal! Is he not allowed to express a preference because he's white? Some guys like chunky girls; some like petites or waifs. Is that a crime too? Sorry, but it's genetically-encoded as much as anything else.

Tuesday 16 February

By Paula

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Its not that he is not attracted to black girls, he made it sound like an insult. I am a white girl and I was insulted by the remark. Who really cares who this stupid persons D*** is attracted to, any woman should be offend by his remark. He has no class.

Wednesday 10 February

By foul mouth

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Only thing I want to know about Jessica Simpson is does she swallow?

Thursday 11 February

By B E

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Does that mean that black people can get a cracker, redneck, gray, peckerwood, or honkey pass, or what do they call white people these days?

Wednesday 10 February

By Naomi

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nothing wrong with not liking black girls but did he have to say he D*ick is a white supremacist????? What's up with that?

Wednesday 10 February

By Nightmare

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For all you demonic idiots out there who thinks the gross, skinny, drug addicted, psycho white trash is a blackman's prize is just as stupid as you sound. You can keep your porno filth and beastiality princess. To all black men, let the devil loose because you see what her family and friends think about you.

Wednesday 10 February

By UTOT MU

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john says jessica simpson is like sexual napalm or
cocaine. it's like saying jennifer aniston is like
driftwood...sexually.

you're dead meat, john.

Wednesday 10 February

By j

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When all people stop using the vulgarity- N I G E R, then it can be considered racist for white or any other shade of person to use it. But no it is used so much in the real world in movies in music,it just sickens me. I can strole down the street and hear black children hispanic children even asian using the word .So John can't be called racist.

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