Like so many pop culture fads, the cougar trend burned bright and fast. A few years back, everyone was very happy to learn that -- gasp! -- women over the age of 40 could still be sexy. Suddenly, there was a preponderance of evidence -- from Michelle Pfeiffer to Demi Moore, Courtney Cox to Halle Berry -- and it was so shocking and exciting and new that everybody wanted a piece of the trend. But now, it appears to waning.
The craze may well have breathed its last breath this week when 53-year-old Kim Cattrall revealed she was denied a magazine cover when she refused to pose with a real-life cougar. Speaking to EXTRA, the 'Sex and the City 2' star said, "I really take umbrage to the code 'cougar.' I think cougar has a negative connotation, and I don't see anything negative about Samantha and her sexuality, sensuality and choice. I don't think she stands or sits in bars waiting for young men to prey on."
Cattrall declined to name the magazine.
Having Cattrall, a five-time Emmy nominee and Golden Globe winner who is about a week away from starring in what will likely be one of the year's biggest films, pose with an animal as some sort of elaborate metaphor for how she too is on the prowl is pretty exhausting, maybe a little offensive and arguably downright sexist. That she stood her ground and refused to allow some magazine to make a buck by presenting her as some sort of ludicrous caricature because she single, attractive and older than most cover girls is commendable.
Salon's Rebecca Traister laments that while celebrating older women is a good thing, the term itself is a massive step in the wrong direction. "How sad and backward that we have to give it a nickname, animalize it as if it's outside the boundaries of civilized human behavior, make it a trend, pretend that Demi Moore invented it. That's not progress, and it's not a step forward for women." Before the cougar craze took off, she notes: "When Cher used to date Rob Camilletti, I think they called him a 'boy toy,' and they called her 'Cher.'"
(Though, we find it equally insulting to refer to a full-grown man as a powerful woman's play thing -- just sayin.' See also: Ciccone, Madonna and Luz, Jesus.)
Indeed, foxy ladies of all ages have long taken offense to the term. Last year, while promoting her film 'Cheri,' in which she played a courtesan who seduces a much younger man, Michelle Pfeiffer told InStyle, "I so hate that term! Colette wrote these novels so long ago, but even today they're ahead of their time in the way we perceive women's power and sexuality."
Now, the ABC hit 'Cougar Town,' starring Courteney Cox, which began its run last fall as a sometimes-raunchy sex farce about an older woman seducing younger men, is looking to change its name.
Back in March, Cox's husband David Arquette talked to PopEater about his wife's cougar status, admitting that while he thinks it's funny, "She's played such a great character and the writers have done such a good job that I think it's transcended the initial 'cougar' drawing." He also gave PopEater an early heads up that series creator Bill Lawrence was considering the name change.
Speaking to HitFix, Lawrence said, "I'd like to [change the title], and the studio has been talking about it for three reasons: One, partly as a result of common sense and partly from their research, they find too many instances of testing of people saying they would never watch a show called 'Cougar Town' ... and then they screen an episode, and people go, 'Oh, I would watch this show.'" He also noted that the series has grown away from its premise now that Cox's character, Jules, is no longer on the hunt for younger men and is seeing Josh Hopkins' character Grayson, who is also in his forties.
By most estimates, the show is the better for it, and even Cox herself has seemed pretty over it -- the title, that is, not the show -- in recent interviews.
We knew the trend's days were officially numbered when beloved national grandmother Betty White joked about being a cougar. While we certainly don't begrudge White getting her kicks while she can, and still laugh when she jokes that Robert Redford is the only thing she has left to do in Hollywood, by the time she reached it, the joke itself was too stale to be saved -- even by the always-hilarious White. (And it certainly says something -- in and of itself -- that the term was already a past-its-prime parody when White used it to promote her hosting gig on 'Saturday Night Live.')
And so now it looks like we're going to have to look at Pfeiffer, Cox, Cattrall and other aging actress for what they really are: confident, successful women whose talent has kept them in the spotlight beyond an arbitrary media-determined sell-by date. Rather than agree to hide behind some sort of cartoon send-up of what an attractive older woman is, these ladies are redefining how we see life after you spot that first wrinkle. It's kind of sad that we're still here, that we're still not as comfortable as we probably should be with older women expressing their sexuality, but nevertheless, here we are.
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HEY ALL THE SEXY WOMEN ARE A LITTLE OLDER. TEENAGERS JUST AREN'T MATURE AND EXPERIENCED ENOUGH TO BE REALLY SEXY. THEY ARE JUST YOUNG AND CUTE. WAIT UNTIL A WOMEN GET INTO HER 30'S AND 40'S, THEN HOT DAMN!
I thought the term was very negative. It implied that women over the age of 40 were stalking younger men. It also was very sexist. I'm glad that it did reveal that mature women who were sexy as a young woman continue to be sexy as they age. Keeping a positive self image is key. I am over 50 and I have dated younger men for over 20 years. It's not that I don't date men my own age, it's just that younger men are more willing to be an equal partner. They are more respectful and fun also.
They prefer to be called 'Pumas'. Some men prefer older women, while some girls prefer older men. Or like me, my age, at least 2 yr younger limit, but I prefer the guy to be older by up to, nothing higher than 43. But, I am married to a guy that's 16 months older than me and been with since 18.
When I was in my mid 20s I was dating two 42 year old men. Both were really good in bed. Guys in there 20s are not. So there is something to be said for dating an older guy.
Older men LOVE to be flirted with younger women even if they are married ( that's why I am in marriage counseling!! ). It has nothing to do with the wife ( I take damn good care of my husbands needs ). It just has to do with the facts that some men DO prefer younger girls, men as they get older feel they are losing their "they still got it" mode from h.s, and then throw in that they lose their hair, gain weight, and when a cute young girl flirts, they go YEAH!hahahaha. Hey, IF a younger guy flirted with me, I'd be flattered, but decline all residual effects that could tamper with my marriage, ex: give the guy my CELL PHONE NUMBER!!!!!
If two people like eachother it doesnt really matter about thier ages, It just that finding someone around Your own age Would be better because You can grow old together, And You, can raise a family together, . Most of these older younger things only result in break ups so Whats the point
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Why does it have to be a "trend?" Gorgeous women of any age can be celebrated without causing a "trend."
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HEY ALL THE SEXY WOMEN ARE A LITTLE OLDER. TEENAGERS JUST AREN'T MATURE AND EXPERIENCED ENOUGH TO BE REALLY SEXY. THEY ARE JUST YOUNG AND CUTE. WAIT UNTIL A WOMEN GET INTO HER 30'S AND 40'S, THEN HOT DAMN!
Glad its over. It was a disrespectful term, just as 'MILF' is. Men are men regardless of age; Women should be women too.
That's "Courteney."
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And I presume none of the above mentioned folks have ever used the term "dirty old man" in any context whatsoever, right?
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I thought the term was very negative. It implied that women over the age of 40 were stalking younger men. It also was very sexist.
I'm glad that it did reveal that mature women who were sexy as a young woman continue to be sexy as they age. Keeping a positive self image is key. I am over 50 and I have dated younger men for over 20 years. It's not that I don't date men my own age, it's just that younger men are more willing to be an equal partner. They are more respectful and fun also.
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They prefer to be called 'Pumas'. Some men prefer older women, while some girls prefer older men. Or like me, my age, at least 2 yr younger limit, but I prefer the guy to be older by up to, nothing higher than 43. But, I am married to a guy that's 16 months older than me and been with since 18.
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They prefer to be called Puma's? I think they prefer to be called women.
Oh my.numbers , numbers numbers..do you realize how ridiculous you sound?
I was quoting what Demi Moore calls herself, she prefers Puma, duh.
By rd: They prefer to be called Puma's? I think they prefer to be called women.
THANK YOU, RD!!!!! I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!
When I was in my mid 20s I was dating two 42 year old men. Both were really good in bed. Guys in there 20s are not. So there is something to be said for dating an older guy.
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Older guys in bed are gonna be better. Young guys are inexperienced and still learning.
But could they keep up with you lmao
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Older men LOVE to be flirted with younger women even if they are married ( that's why I am in marriage counseling!! ). It has nothing to do with the wife ( I take damn good care of my husbands needs ). It just has to do with the facts that some men DO prefer younger girls, men as they get older feel they are losing their "they still got it" mode from h.s, and then throw in that they lose their hair, gain weight, and when a cute young girl flirts, they go YEAH!hahahaha. Hey, IF a younger guy flirted with me, I'd be flattered, but decline all residual effects that could tamper with my marriage, ex: give the guy my CELL PHONE NUMBER!!!!!
Probably if the guy is in okay shape they could keep up with a younger girl. Or if they are falling apart, they make the girl do all the work!
cougar: what a horrible, demeaning, vacant, meaningless existence...don't know why any self-respecting woman would want to be one
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If two people like eachother it doesnt really matter about thier ages, It just that finding someone around Your own age Would be better because You can grow old together, And You, can raise a family together, . Most of these older younger things only result in break ups so Whats the point
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40-60 is fine, after that, everyone is old.........
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Now, I will wait for the term "hot mom" to be over. Why can't one be just a 'mom'; not a 'hot mom.'??
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