Like so many pop culture fads, the cougar trend burned bright and fast. A few years back, everyone was very happy to learn that -- gasp! -- women over the age of 40 could still be sexy. Suddenly, there was a preponderance of evidence -- from Michelle Pfeiffer to Demi Moore, Courtney Cox to Halle Berry -- and it was so shocking and exciting and new that everybody wanted a piece of the trend. But now, it appears to waning.
The craze may well have breathed its last breath this week when 53-year-old Kim Cattrall revealed she was denied a magazine cover when she refused to pose with a real-life cougar. Speaking to EXTRA, the 'Sex and the City 2' star said, "I really take umbrage to the code 'cougar.' I think cougar has a negative connotation, and I don't see anything negative about Samantha and her sexuality, sensuality and choice. I don't think she stands or sits in bars waiting for young men to prey on."
Cattrall declined to name the magazine.
Having Cattrall, a five-time Emmy nominee and Golden Globe winner who is about a week away from starring in what will likely be one of the year's biggest films, pose with an animal as some sort of elaborate metaphor for how she too is on the prowl is pretty exhausting, maybe a little offensive and arguably downright sexist. That she stood her ground and refused to allow some magazine to make a buck by presenting her as some sort of ludicrous caricature because she single, attractive and older than most cover girls is commendable.
Salon's Rebecca Traister laments that while celebrating older women is a good thing, the term itself is a massive step in the wrong direction. "How sad and backward that we have to give it a nickname, animalize it as if it's outside the boundaries of civilized human behavior, make it a trend, pretend that Demi Moore invented it. That's not progress, and it's not a step forward for women." Before the cougar craze took off, she notes: "When Cher used to date Rob Camilletti, I think they called him a 'boy toy,' and they called her 'Cher.'"
(Though, we find it equally insulting to refer to a full-grown man as a powerful woman's play thing -- just sayin.' See also: Ciccone, Madonna and Luz, Jesus.)
Indeed, foxy ladies of all ages have long taken offense to the term. Last year, while promoting her film 'Cheri,' in which she played a courtesan who seduces a much younger man, Michelle Pfeiffer told InStyle, "I so hate that term! Colette wrote these novels so long ago, but even today they're ahead of their time in the way we perceive women's power and sexuality."
Now, the ABC hit 'Cougar Town,' starring Courteney Cox, which began its run last fall as a sometimes-raunchy sex farce about an older woman seducing younger men, is looking to change its name.
Back in March, Cox's husband David Arquette talked to PopEater about his wife's cougar status, admitting that while he thinks it's funny, "She's played such a great character and the writers have done such a good job that I think it's transcended the initial 'cougar' drawing." He also gave PopEater an early heads up that series creator Bill Lawrence was considering the name change.
Speaking to HitFix, Lawrence said, "I'd like to [change the title], and the studio has been talking about it for three reasons: One, partly as a result of common sense and partly from their research, they find too many instances of testing of people saying they would never watch a show called 'Cougar Town' ... and then they screen an episode, and people go, 'Oh, I would watch this show.'" He also noted that the series has grown away from its premise now that Cox's character, Jules, is no longer on the hunt for younger men and is seeing Josh Hopkins' character Grayson, who is also in his forties.
By most estimates, the show is the better for it, and even Cox herself has seemed pretty over it -- the title, that is, not the show -- in recent interviews.
We knew the trend's days were officially numbered when beloved national grandmother Betty White joked about being a cougar. While we certainly don't begrudge White getting her kicks while she can, and still laugh when she jokes that Robert Redford is the only thing she has left to do in Hollywood, by the time she reached it, the joke itself was too stale to be saved -- even by the always-hilarious White. (And it certainly says something -- in and of itself -- that the term was already a past-its-prime parody when White used it to promote her hosting gig on 'Saturday Night Live.')
And so now it looks like we're going to have to look at Pfeiffer, Cox, Cattrall and other aging actress for what they really are: confident, successful women whose talent has kept them in the spotlight beyond an arbitrary media-determined sell-by date. Rather than agree to hide behind some sort of cartoon send-up of what an attractive older woman is, these ladies are redefining how we see life after you spot that first wrinkle. It's kind of sad that we're still here, that we're still not as comfortable as we probably should be with older women expressing their sexuality, but nevertheless, here we are.
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I think it's great the "trend" of calling women over 40 cougars is ending. It was always a dumb, insulting term. Now we can go back to calling them what they truly are: magnificent.
Men peak...women can go on well after 40. So it stands to reason that women who still enjoy sex need to date younger men. If you watch TV you see pills of all sorts aimed at men's lack of ..well let's just say men wear out faster than women.
I don't see anything wrong with the name 'cougar', and I do not see this as a trend that's dieing. At bars in every city, there are guys barely old enough (or unable) to drink with women in their 40's..I think the term cougar is making this more socially acceptable rather than the opposite. If single women over 40 date men 10 years or more younger than them, there's ALWAYS going to be a stigma attached to it, like it or not. Any woman in this situation, who looks negatively at the term 'cougar', most likely is self-conscious about herself and doesn't wanna admit her natural attraction to younger men...Basically people just need to move on...
My mom is dating a guy wo is 14 years younger than her. Only 7 years older than me. They're a very happy couple, and she hasn't been happy in a long time. I don't mind the word cougar, and she just takes it as a joke when her friends call her one. I hardly think it's degrading, women in media are constantly calling men names and no one has said anything about that yet.
When men hit their 40s and started dressing younger and dating younger women, older women would say that men were going through a " mid life crisis" and were trying to be young again. Now women are doing the same thing with their own " mid life crisis" and don't want to get old, so they dress sexier and date younger men thinking that will show that they are still as good as when they were younger. All it really proves is that they have lowered their standards to be like the men that they once condemned. Don't they realize that younger women went with older men because the men would spend lots of money on them, and that the younger men go with older women because they are easier to get then younger women.
I think men in their 30s are the best lovers, but then again, I haven't slept with anyone over 30some. Being 33, I prefer dating men anywhere in their 30s and I do feel like a child molestor even considering dating someone in their 20s (even though, these 20 some year olds are cute, hot, and energetic). I think that as long as the man has good stamina, it doesn't matter how old they are.
I am not bragging at all. I've been with my husband for 21 years ( no I'm not old! 39 )and he has evolved as a lover. Me too! Now it's all about fun stuff like body stockings and lotions and kicking the kids out!
I think Michelle Phiffer is growing old gracefully. Demi Moore, what she won't get worked on to keep Ashton. She is not confident. She'll end up like Heidi Montage. Ashton is a really decent guy and as he's getting older, is aging nicely. He's a cutey.
i just love to see this actresses get old, its so sweet to see them try to stay young.all their money dont mean a thing in the morning in front of the mirror,lol
It was always a hyped term and concept.The media pumps it up to get you to buy in to it for as long as they can.You aint rebeling your buying what their selling.
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Alot of these actors Faces and Behives have been bitten out by african Couger Tigers.
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I am the so called "Dirty old man"! I may be old but not DEAD!!
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I think it's great the "trend" of calling women over 40 cougars is ending. It was always a dumb, insulting term. Now we can go back to calling them what they truly are: magnificent.
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Hey, don't knock it, till you've tried it!
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Men peak...women can go on well after 40. So it stands to reason that women who still enjoy sex need to date younger men. If you watch TV you see pills of all sorts aimed at men's lack of ..well let's just say men wear out faster than women.
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Oh Dear God! It's called as they get older, the "one hit wonder"! Oh the good ol'days when the guy could go all day.........
I don't see anything wrong with the name 'cougar', and I do not see this as a trend that's dieing. At bars in every city, there are guys barely old enough (or unable) to drink with women in their 40's..I think the term cougar is making this more socially acceptable rather than the opposite. If single women over 40 date men 10 years or more younger than them, there's ALWAYS going to be a stigma attached to it, like it or not. Any woman in this situation, who looks negatively at the term 'cougar', most likely is self-conscious about herself and doesn't wanna admit her natural attraction to younger men...Basically people just need to move on...
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My mom is dating a guy wo is 14 years younger than her. Only 7 years older than me. They're a very happy couple, and she hasn't been happy in a long time.
I don't mind the word cougar, and she just takes it as a joke when her friends call her one. I hardly think it's degrading, women in media are constantly calling men names and no one has said anything about that yet.
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When men hit their 40s and started dressing younger and dating younger women, older women would say that men were going through a " mid life crisis" and were trying to be young again. Now women are doing the same thing with their own " mid life crisis" and don't want to get old, so they dress sexier and date younger men thinking that will show that they are still as good as when they were younger. All it really proves is that they have lowered their standards to be like the men that they once condemned. Don't they realize that younger women went with older men because the men would spend lots of money on them, and that the younger men go with older women because they are easier to get then younger women.
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So you're saying that older women are easy? I'll have to remember that.:)
Oooh touche'! I liked older men when I was younger not for their money ( my man had none ), but they oozed something called confidence.
I think men in their 30s are the best lovers, but then again, I haven't slept with anyone over 30some. Being 33, I prefer dating men anywhere in their 30s and I do feel like a child molestor even considering dating someone in their 20s (even though, these 20 some year olds are cute, hot, and energetic). I think that as long as the man has good stamina, it doesn't matter how old they are.
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I am not bragging at all. I've been with my husband for 21 years ( no I'm not old! 39 )and he has evolved as a lover. Me too! Now it's all about fun stuff like body stockings and lotions and kicking the kids out!
Where were these cougars at when I was 20?
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Guy's can go after a girl too. Why do we have to do all the work?
An example of a detrimental "cougar" is the good old H.S teacher!
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I think Michelle Phiffer is growing old gracefully. Demi Moore, what she won't get worked on to keep Ashton. She is not confident. She'll end up like Heidi Montage. Ashton is a really decent guy and as he's getting older, is aging nicely. He's a cutey.
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i just love to see this actresses get old, its so sweet to see them try to stay young.all their money dont mean a thing in the morning in front of the mirror,lol
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It was always a hyped term and concept.The media pumps it up to get you to buy in to it for as long as they can.You aint rebeling your buying what their selling.
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Gee go for the jugular! SIOP
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