Kendra's Sex Tape as a Learning Tool? No Way, Say Moms

By Jo Piazza Posted Jun 10th 2010 08:00PM

Kendra Wilkinson has been desperate to rebrand herself from a nudie model and trashy reality star into a domesticated diva, albeit one who still prances around in booty shorts.

But, if she thought her comments to Ryan Seacrest about how her sex tape could be a learning tool to teach her now infant son, Hank IV, right from wrong would endear her to the mommy set, she was sorely mistaken.

"Now that this happened, it hurts, but I know it's going to make me and Hank better parents. It's really going to make us teach our child what's right and wrong in this world. We're going to make sure our son is raised with a good head on his shoulders, a person that has morals, that treats women with respect," Kendra said.

And seeing mommy giving a stranger a ... that's going to make little Hank a better man?

Mommy bloggers are up in arms over Kendra's silly and ignorant remarks, saying she is really reaching for an excuse or a silver lining to this nasty situation and she should have left her son out of it altogether.

"It's unfortunate Kendra is in a position to have to explain her actions to her son. To justify the tape in this way, however, will teach him that he is not accountable for his actions and to make excuses for bad decisions," says blogger and mother of two Cecelia Mecca, PhD, of Cool Baby Kid.

Another question is where does Kendra plan to draw the line when it comes to her teaching tools? Will she drag out old copies of Playboy, spin moralistic yarns from the mouth of Hugh Hefner? Maybe Hank can play dress up in her old bunny outfits.

"Sounds a little bit to me that she's trying to convince herself that it wasn't such a bad thing. I saw her on her show, 'Kendra,' and she seemed distressed about it then, and even said, 'I have a family.' She should have left it at that, she didn't need to change her statement and make it about teaching her son. I think as a mom you always want better for your children, but to basically say her sex tape is a learning tool, she's just kidding herself there. Maybe her issues of Playboy were also just to teach her future child. Mistakes happen in life, and even if you don't know you'll be a celebrity, doesn't mean it's safe to make a sex tape. If you're afraid of anyone seeing anything like that of you, just don't do it," says Jennifer Bullock, creator of the blog Mommy B Knows Best and a mom of two.

Christine Coppa, author of 'Rattled!' and the Mama's Boy blog on Parenting.com, knows a little something about putting her personal parenting advice out there for everyone to see or read. Since she became a single mom to her son J.D. two-and-a-half years ago, she has been putting her story out there just like Kendra -- only without the sex tape.

She agrees that Kendra was reaching for excuses during her Seacrest interview, but is much more maternal in her opinion that little Hank IV won't care about his mom's sordid past as long as he is loved by two happy parents.

"I think sometimes things are better left not talked about. Son and sex tape in the same sentence is one of those times. I do appreciate Kendra's attempt to defuse this very uncomfortable situation, but making statements about how her infant will one day learn a moral lesson from her sex tape is reaching. My son, who turns three this summer, is getting his moral lessons from the Disney-Pixar movie 'Cars,'" Coppa says. "Everyone has a past and everyone is allowed their mistakes. We weren't always parents thinking about what's best for our child. I'm sure Kendra wishes she could go back in time and nix that sex tape all together. We all have those moments, [but] all we can do now is move forward -- it's hard, but it gets easier. Hank Jr. won't be concerned about that sex tape. He has a beautiful mom who loves him -- and a strong family standing behind him!"

Maybe Hank IV will be a very well-adjusted little boy (who grows up with cameras in his face), who can shrug and laugh off his mom's naughty tapes and pictures. But he probably won't be. According to psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman, M.D., this sex tape will be damaging to Hank IV no matter how Kendra tries to spin it.

"When her son grows up, if anyone remembers the sex tape, or if he finds stacks of them in the garage, he will be psychologically damaged by seeing his mother performing sex acts," Dr. Lieberman says.

The real lesson in all of this is about right from wrong, but it isn't a lesson for Hank IV. It's for all the little girls and boys out there who one day hope to be famous/have a family/have an awesome career. Don't make a sex tape.

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Friday 11 June

By Angelica

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I think Kendra will be a great mom even after this sex tape. She never said she was going to give little Hank a play by play and let him watch the tape. She simply said she was going to make a negative into a positive by teaching him that exploiting a woman is not right. U GO GRL!

By monkeybiz333

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Too bad Hank you married a ho

By jwoolman

She didn't say the tape itself would be a learning tool for her son - she was obviously referring to the situation as a cautionary tale to help her teach her son to avoid her mistakes. Something she did when she was much younger had consequences for her later life that she never anticipated at the time. She can't change the past, and has to figure out a way to deal with it when her son is older. What would you have her do - never get married, never have children?!? Go off and live alone in a cave? We all have done stupid things that we can use as cautionary tales...

By Bob

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Just another ignorant HO

By Bri

She can still be a postive role model for her own son. Nobody wants to give her any credit. When you can't ever give your respect to others and always critize, you are the one that looks like an idiot.

By Flip

Cecelia Mecca, PhD, of Cool Baby Kid, what a judgemental PHD-BAG! Wow, Kendra is no word smith but I clearly get from what she said that she will use what happened to help raise her son. Then a bunch of you let the haterade flow. For no reason might I add.

By conniee

Shes done put a fork in her,a learning tool for her son my god.

Ya there is hate because they shouldnt even cover a woman this stupid.Like she has to concern herself about a boy useing a sex tape to further his career.Or getting tips from his mom.She will be selling her but one day just leave it at the motel.

By JollyRogers

Kendra is a idiot. Good looking, but still an idiot.

By lula

get a life!!!!!!!do u have a sex tape i do.....

By Erin

She is not talking about sitting her infant son down and showing him the tape, she is saying the situation with the tapes has taught her a lesson, and she is trying to show people that her family is her top most concern. This is not even her mistake, yet she is holding the bag for it. The mistake was the ex-boyfriends, he is the one who decided to take a very private item and make some money from it. Hang in there Kendra!! Live and learn thats how we all go thru life!

By Catca

She didn't say she would show her son the tape. It's just obvious that her son is going to hear about it at some point in his life, probably when he's still a kid. It is a learning tool in the sense that she can tell her kid what a huge mistake she made and how it affected her and why he shouldn't make the same mistakes she did. How is that notion silly? Would it be better for her son that she never made the tape? Obviously. But it's out there now so she needs to deal with it.

By Kim

For everyone who wants to judge, Kendra did a Sex Tape and regrets it , but she was a teenager and remember it takes TWO people so these "ex-boyfriend" is not exactly innocent. Yes she was in Playboy, yes she was Heff's girlfriend but anyone who is TRUE fan of her and the life she and husband are trying to give their child , in oppinion should be QUITE! Look @ the things you did as a teen first.

By trmnatr2

She will disappear from being a celebrity before her kid reaches 2 anyway.Looks can only carry you so far in the entertainment business,and looks always fade with time.she really has no talent other than that.Cuckholding her husband like this by putting out a sextape with another man cant be good for her marraige.Hanks gonna hear it on the field from the opposing teams until he explodes.

By asvasvav

retty much said sex is okay with anyone at anytime; married or not married. Just look around you. How many young girls do you see dressed with very little left to the imagination; sexting is nothing to young girls, "everybody" does it! Think about it; Tiger Woods, Jesse James, hell even Marilyn Monroe! It's all about SEX. If Kendra really wants to set an example, she's d

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By ralphgmiami

Kendra better save up royalty money from the sex tape for a psychiatrist for her son. Look what happened to poor Julian Lennon, John Lennon's son. He had to see a disgusting photo of his dad naked with Yoko Ono. Sure Julian Lennon had three hits and he sounded like he went through trauma in them. Then he put out a string of albums in which he was so shellshocked that he sounded like a zombie. Maybe Kendra can convince her son that it really wasn't her as silicone covered her chest anyway. The peroxide also took away her dark roots. The face isn't real as the nose was redone.

By JoyRptr

Sex tape? I still can't get past her "doing" that old geezer. Yuck.....

Saturday 12 June

By meknowya

What a silly odd couple. Kendra is a sex freak and Hank is just a
dumb stupid jock to marry a lesbian penthouse hustler to be the mommy of his child. Get over it people, this is what black male athletes do, when they sign the contract and make the money.

Sunday 13 June

By Lizzig

Pamela Anderson's boys seem to have grown up okay despite their mums sex tapes. I remember reading that she had discussed this with the boys and they are fine. I don't believe that it would cause so much damage to poor little Hank that he will need therapy later in life. I have watched Kendra's show and must say she seems a lovely person, a little simple at times but usually does and says the right thing. Keep your head high Kendra you did nothing wrong. I am not religious but I do know one line ... Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.... can anyone really say their isn't something lurking in their past that they did and regret now??? I say No way.

Wednesday 30 June

By Adult Personal

Wow...hot moms.is really so cool..it give me a good think of it.

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