Halle Berry Talks Breakup for First Time: 'We're Still Friends'

In the September issue of
Vogue,
Halle Berry opens up about her breakup with Gabriel Aubry for the first time.
"It's just that you realize you are not meant to go the distance with everybody. We were meant to bring this amazing little person into the world. And I think that's why we came together. And because of that, we are going to be together, forever, all three of us. We are a family until we are not here anymore," she tells the magazine.
Berry and Aubry,
who split this past April, have a 2-year-old daughter, Nahla, together. They'd been together four years when they ended their relationship.
"We have always been friends, we're still friends, we love each other very much, and we both share the love of our lives. And we are both 100 percent committed to being the best parents we can be. And while it was not a love connection for us, he was absolutely the right person to have this child with because she is going to have an amazing father. And that was really important to me. We'll make sure we always do what is right for her and put her first. And she will see as she grows that we have a lot of love for each other," she adds in the interview.
Berry refused to remain committed to her ex romantically just for her daughter's sake. "I don't think I'm unlike a lot of people. I am just someone who is trying to find that mate, and I think it's a really hard thing to do. And I am not willing to stay somewhere where I am not really happy. And I am not willing to pretend I am for the kid's sake or so that I don't have to go through another public humiliation."
But the actress believes that the breakup is a positive thing. "It's about accepting who we really are, not who we want to be. As much as I have always wanted to be in this committed relationship and have the picket fence and grow old with the same person, I'm coming to terms with: Maybe that's just not who I am."
Back when they first split, reports suggested that it was the 9-year age difference that caused the friction. (Berry is 43, Aubry is 34.)
"Gabriel just felt it wasn't working anymore. When they were first together, the 9-year age difference between them didn't phase him, she was the most beautiful woman he had ever dated and he was totally in love. But as time went on he started feeling it more and more. Also, Gabriel started noticing other women and being attracted to others, and he felt it just wasn't right to stay with Halle in those circumstances," a source told
Radar Online.
A friend close to the Oscar winner also believed Aubry to be jealous,
PEOPLE reported. "I got the sense that he was jealous of her, that this is another example of a man not being able to deal with a successful and beautiful woman."
Another friend confided in PEOPLE that he liked to spend time with other female models. "He is around them all the time for work. He wants to be free for a while."
Aubry hit back at his critics following the breakup. "While I will not comment on all of the wild inaccuracies being speculated about in the media, I am sad to say that Halle and I have decided together to separate at this time," he told
Access Hollywood.
"
She is, and will forever be, one of the most special and beautiful people that I have ever known, and I am certain that we will continue to have only love and respect for one another. We have been blessed with the most amazing daughter in the world, and her happiness and well-being are the most important thing for both of us," he concluded.

The two have been true to their word when it comes to raising their daughter, and have been spotted together occasionally since the breakup.
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I have been in this situation and where we all go wrong is we search for our happiness in another person. We think a person brings us happiness because they satisfy our outer feelings like our touch sight and feel. There is a spiritual void in our hearts that we all try to fill with worldly objects and it never satisfies us. I learned the hard way myself that only one true person can satisfy my spiritual desires and that is God. I hurt so many people including myself and was filled with such brokenness i could not take it. I am on a path to develop a intimate relationship with God and its a beautiful journey.
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THAT IS SO REAL AND TRUE ONLY A FEW PEOPLE TALK THAT TRUTH.ITS NOT POPULAR. PEOPLE DONT WANT TO HEAR TRUTH,SO THEY GO THEIR OWN WAY AND DO WHAT THEY WANT TO FORFILL THEIR DESIRES AND NEVER BEING ABLE TO FILL THAT VIOD THATS IN THEIR LIFE. YOU ARE NOT ALONE BROTHER IM ON THAT SAME NARROW ROAD AND ONLY A FEW WILL FIND THE GATE.
I would not engage in to a mixed marriage or romantic relationship. Bad news.
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For all of you that says that Halle has a problem with men? How many men or women have you been involved with in your ENTIRE lifetime? If you are not still with your 1st boyfriend or girlfriend then hush! You all need to stop criticizing people who don't measure up to your standards....you are you and she is who she is....I guess you'd hang Elizabeth Taylor huh? lol
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The difference is that I didn't have a freakin' BABY with every boyfriend! It looks like babies are the new, chic Hollywood accessory. How sad for the babies, with half-brothers and half-sisters all over the country,without ever knowing some of them. Selfish,selfish people.
Someone please tell me what differentiates any of these unmarried Hollywood types from trailer trash? They have babies without benefit of forethought or marriage. They move on to the next partner and have another baby. They have the morals of alleycats. Oh wait, they ARE trailer trash.
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The Rich, are different.
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Halle. I feel so bad for you. Such bad luck with men. Everyone thinks when you are a beautiful women that you must have the best life. Not always true. This guy was hot, but SHE can do better. HOpefully this last one hasn't shaken her trust for men to the limit :(
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Cut it out. Wise up. Do you really believe this woman cares about what you think? My gosh.
you must live in a trailer park if you don't know the difference between these type of people."they can afford their kids"!
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Karen
"Hollywood trash" as you say can afford better trailers.Their kids are taken care of.Have you visited a trailer park lately? People don't have to be married to have kids.
I have a problem with adopting kids from all over the world not being married or being married and then divorcing.can you say "are you my sibling"?
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Bella: you are very young or naive. Parents should stay together for the kids? Find some kids who grew up with parents hating each other and ask them if they enjoyed the enviroment. Your kids grow up and move on hun, then you turn old and its just to late for you to move on. Your kids don't have to live with that decision forever, you (the parent) does.
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It amazes me how celebs try relationships out like the rest of us try on clothing. Are you serious? My husband and I have been married 13 years, dated almost 5 years. While I admit there are trying times, I can't imagine giving our relationship the same regard I'd give to changing my undies. Get real folks! Hollywood is out of step...and to think these people consider themselves role models for my children!
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Didn't she go to bed with every leading man that she appeared with?
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NO BUT YOUR MOM DOES
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Just another case of a celeb giving a magazine their "poor, poor, poor me. Poor, poor pitiful me", story for a payday. What is so unique about her situation? Why does she believe her personnel live is a concern to anybody? I think this woman needs to grow up and deal with her life like an adult. Her business should be her business only. Only immature self centered people thinks everyone cares about them.
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Eat pray love is nothing but a story of a self absorbed self indulgent woman, unhappy with the choices she made in life. It contributes nothing to literature, or anything else for that matter.
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Ladies, think before you marry these younger men in his age range. They are still little boys. Also, how shallow could he be? From the beginning, they were not a match. Wishing them both the best with different partners!
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THAT IS AN AMAZING INSIGHT THAT HALLE HAS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP SHE HAS AND ITS PURPOSE. GOD BLESS HER...
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WELL- YOU WOMMEN OUT THERE THAT ONLY DATE FOR SEX- YOU MIGHT AS WELL STRAP A MATTRESS TO YOUR BACK AND GET PAID FOR IT.
BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER FIND LOVE - SO WHY NOT GET PAID FOR YOUR SERVICES ?
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