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Balthazar Getty and his wife, Rosetta, separated in 2008 after the actor's highly photographed affair with Sienna Miller -- but now the parents of four are giving their 10-year marriage another shot."Here's the bottom line: It was a very challenging time for everybody involved," Getty, 35, told Harper's Bazaar.
"But I loved and missed my family too much not to make it work. Rosetta is understanding enough and spiritual enough to let us try. In a way it -- I don't know ... I feel like we're better than we've ever been," he added.
Rosetta, 40, also gave her thoughts on what happened. "I'm open to talking about it because I believe we go through things in a public way to help other people get through it. I'd love to talk about it more with people when I'm clearer about it."
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Perhaps because I've never been faced with an infidelity, I find it very difficult to understand how anyone--especially a spouse--can forgive and take back a partner who has cheated. How does one ever trust the cheater again? How does one look at him/her without thinking about the betrayal? I don't think I could do it. In Getty's case, he knew that he and Miller, being celebrities, were easy prey for the paparazzi, yet he paraded the affair for all to see. He had absolutely no respect for his wife and children. Again, I don't see how she can stand to be with him again.
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That's what men do.. mate to procreate the herd.can't be stopped by morals or laws...It's what we do to regenerate the herd.since the beginning of man.
She's either a saint or she's broke.
@ ttrexxx i hope you are just speaking for yourself cause all men are not like that only the shallow ones with low self-esteem,you seem to fit that genre;;;;;;have a godd day hosser
Gee, ttrexxx ~ You'd think you'd want to aspire to be BETTER than animals. Hm. You certainly do not speak for those of us who have evolved.
CAN YOU SPELL F O R G I V N E S S? I do believe people make mistakes. My ex husband cheated on me from time to time, that is why he is my ex. I did forgive him once, but not twice.
Just because you agree to try and work things out, doesn't mean trust is automatically there. Trust takes a long time to be gained, and you can love someone without trusting them.
Forgiveness is a process, and yes, you think about the betrayal for a long time, but eventually you see that the person is really a different person than the one who made that mistake, or you learn they're not.
It is a risk worth taking if you love the person enough, and you feel it is the best thing for your family.
Nothing like a woman supporting her husband having a girlfriend! What a doormat. He'll cheat again, sweetie, now that he knows you'll forgive him. I would've taken those Getty millions and hit the road.
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I agree once a cheater cheats he will cheat just to cheat because that what cheaters do.
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I think she's right. I went through a very similar situation- although ours was very short-lived and without the very public humiliation.
I had to put my ego aside for the sake of my kids. I felt as though I owed it to my kids to try and make it work. We reconciled and have been going strong for 12 years since. It took time and he had to work really hard to win my trust again, but he has. He knows he got one chance and if he ever does anything like that again it is over. No discussion.
I actually think my taking him back made our relationship stronger.
I didn't feel like a doormat at all. I was strong for my kids and made the right decision for us. I don't believe "once a cheater always a cheater". People make mistakes and sometimes they deserve a second (and final) chance.
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I like what u posted Anon! I went through the same thing and some people can change. With forgiveness and a lot prayer and time, my husband and I are closer and more in love than we've ever been. Also, when he saw my actions of being able to forgive him and still continue to show him love, it caused him to desire a relationship with Christ!
For all of those people who say "she is a doormat" "he will do it again" etc. your post says it all. If you have never been through it you cannot say how you would react. The fact that his wife left him for two years has obviously made him realize that she is NOT a "doormat" and that he is blessed to be able to get his family back and I am SURE she has made it clear that this is a one time do-over. I have no respect for Sienna Miller and wouldn't go see anything she was a part of.
You are fooling yourself. Once a cheater , still a cheater , you are either in denial , or really pathetic. Doing it for the kids is a big fat lie, you did it for yourself and to pretend. Doormat
i too agree with anon. if you haven't been there, you cannot possibly speak to what you would or would not do. i'd always believed that if it happened to me, i'd never take him back. until it did happen to me.
after fifteen years of marriage and twenty years together, my husband went through a personal crisis and in the process became someone i no longer knew nor even liked. our story is similar to the getty & anon stories. the process is heartwrenchingly difficult but after a two year seperation we decided to give it another chance. also, like anon, we both know, if he does it again, it is over. permanently.
i don't feel like a doormat at all. i made the right decision for me and for us and for our family. yes, we have a different relationship now but in some ways it has bonded us in a stronger way. the wound his infidelity caused was deep but our bond was, and is, deeper.
Yes I have been in this situation, and yes I took the cheater back. And yes he cheated again. No, don't trust him and no don't put yourself through the pain again.
You sound like a wise and spiritual woman. While my ex-husband cheated on me, it was not a situation that I could save nor did I want to. I do know that life is not "black & white" so clear cut that there is one answer for everyone. People do make mistakes, and sometimes it is a mistake that will propel growth, insight and maturity. I know there are "serial cheaters" out there, and for those men, I wouldn't waste my time or devalue my self-esteem. But I believe you made a decision with a mature, sound mind and I hope you continued to enjoy a stronger and happy marriage.
Your ego? How do women who've been cheated on blame their own ego? It's the man's ego that is the problem. You are sending the wrong message to your children by forgiving the cheater and blaming yourself. Why don't these cheating men take the blame for what they've done? Although I believe forgiving may be healthier in some situations and taking responsibility for her own part in it, it still has nothing to do with the HER ego.
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When I said putting my ego aside I meant that I chose to try and get past the hurt he had caused me personally. Instead of ending our marriage of 5 years,I chose to forgive and try and work past the hurt.
Don't get me wrong-it was his doing. He was to blame and he knew it.
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If you can’t understand that people are capable of anything weather it be good or bad.
A woman scorned by her own insecurities is her own down fall.
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