In September, five teenage boys killed themselves after being physically or verbally (or both) assaulted for being gay. The suicides of Tyler Clementi, 18, Billy Lucas, 15, Asher Brown, 13, Justin Aaberg, 15, and Seth Walsh, 13, have brought national attention to the epidemic of bullying in American schools.
Now, a number of stars, many of whom have personal experience with anti-gay bullying, are speaking out in hopes of raising awareness and providing support to teens and young adults who are being victimized or who are having trouble dealing with their sexuality. The topic is also addressed in a cover story for this week's PEOPLE magazine and in a week-long series on CNN's Anderson Cooper 360.
Most recently, 'Project Runway' mentor Tim Gunn spoke candidly about his own suicide attempt and his support for The Trevor Project, a national 24-hour, toll-free confidential suicide hotline for gay and questioning youth. "I understand the desperation. I understand the despair," an emotional Gunn said with tears in his eyes. "And I understand how isolated you can feel ... It will get better. I promise."
Following Billy Lucas' death, well-known columnist and author Dan Savage launched the "It Gets Better" campaign – a series of user-created YouTube videos in which gay adults openly discuss the torment they incurred in high school and encourage GLBT youth to stick it out because "it gets better." Clementi's death has inspired an overwhelming response to the campaign, which has since been flooded with videos from men and women across the world sharing their stories.
"When a gay teenager commits suicide, it's because he can't picture a life for himself that's filled with joy and family and pleasure and is worth sticking around for," Savage told MTV a week after Clementi's death. "So I felt it was really important that, as gay adults, we show them that our lives are good and happy and healthy and that there's a life worth sticking around for after high school."
Savage's "It Gets Better" message has seemingly become the rallying cry around which a movement against anti-gay bullying has centered, with Anne Hathaway, Jenny McCarthy, Ian Somerhalder and Kristin Cavallari recording a PSA for The Trevor Project that uses the motto. 'Harry Potter' star Daniel Radcliffe also recently spoke to MTV about the importance of the Trevor Project.
TV stars Ellen DeGeneres and Neil Patrick Harris have also spoken out against anti-gay bullying. "This needs to be a wake up call to everyone ... One life lost in this senseless way is tragic; four lives lost is a crisis," DeGeneres said in an emotional message taped on the set of her daytime talk show. "My heart is breaking for their families, for their friends and for our society that continues to let this happen. These kids needed us, and we have an obligation to change this. We can't let intolerance and ignorance to take another kid's life."
Harris, who is openly gay and will welcome twins via surrogate with his partner of over six years, actor David Burtka, this fall, pleaded with gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth to focus on their futures, which he sees as bright and full of possibility. "For the love of Pete, there's no need to harm yourself if something is going bad. You can act with strength, you can act with courage, you can act with class," Harris said in the MTV PSA. "Stand tall, be proud of who you are. This is a good time that we live in, and we're being granted more and more rights. And that's awesome, and it will continue in that direction. Yeah – be proud."
Clementi, a freshman at Rutgers University, jumped to his death from the George Washington Bridge after his roommate, Dharun Ravi, 18, allegedly used a web cam in their dorm room to secretly stream a romantic encounter between Clementi and another man. Ravi's alleged behavior inspired disgust from conservative commentator Bill O'Reilly, who, when responding to analyst Gretchen Carlson's assertion on FOX News' 'The O'Reilly Factor' that Ravi and his accomplice, Molly Wei, 18, "are probably good kids who did an immensely stupid thing," said, "I don't believe that. I don't think you can be a good kid and plan that kind of stuff out in the cruel nature that they did ... I think they're bad kids. They're bad kids, and they should have been raised better."
Comedienne Sarah Silverman has inspired some controversy by positing that a national atmosphere of institutionalized homophobia, as exemplified by the military's Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy as well as campaigns for constitutional amendments to ban civil marriage for same-sex couples, are at the heart of this epidemic.
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And former NSYNC singer Lance Bass, who came out as gay on the cover of PEOPLE in 2006, surprised many when he admitted to having been a bully himself. "If people can look at me and see that I was one of those bullies that always made fun of gay people, and I had this huge secret, so there's always a bigger story than what you see."
What has been made abundantly clear -- regardless of personal opinions on the religious and/or moral implications of homosexuality -- is that there is a problem, and no child (no person) deserves to be harassed or made to feel worthless because of who they are. If you or someone you know is suffering in silence, encourage them to get help by visiting The Trevor Project or calling 866-4-U-TREVOR.
PROPAGANDA? GOD I WISH YOU WERE RIGHT...SORRY MARILYN YOU ARE 100% WRONG. PLEASE OPEN YOUR HEART AND MIND TO THE SICK FACTS CONCERNING GAY TEEN SUICIDE.
Marilyn, YOU HAVE ISSUES--OR A STICK UP YOUR BUTT.
BULLYING IS WRONG-IF YOU BULLY STRIAIGHT, GAY, FAT, BESPECTACLED, IRANIAN, IRISH, OR INTROVERTED FOLK.
I HAVE LLIVED IN A NUMBER OF PLACES-N,S, E, W AND MID-WEST. I HAVE LIVED WITH BORN AGAINS AND WITH ATHEISTS AND EVERYTHING INBETWEEN. I AM FAIRLY CONFIDENT IN SAYING THAT GAYS RARELY BULLY STRAIGHT FOLK. YOU, ON THE OTHER HAND, ARE A COVERT BULLY BY BUYING INTO AND SELLING THE IDEA THAT GAYS ARE "BULLYING" THEIR WAY INTO THIS THAT AND THE OTHER.
THEY ARE CALLED RIGHTS, MARULIN- YOU DON;T BULLY YOUR WAY INTO THEM, YOU DEMAND THEM AS A CITIZEN DUE EQUAL RIGHTS. OF COURSE, IF YOU RPEFER TO LET RELIGION RULE HE LAND, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GO TO A COUNTRY THAT BELEIVES IN THAT. SEE HOW YOU LIKE LIVING UNDER SHARIA LAW.
Bullying has gone on from the beginning of time, Cain killed Abel. As long as there are insecure people there will be bullys & just as Islamic terrorists understand nothing but power, so these bullys understand nothing but a good smackdown. You may cower them into "acting right," but then it only goes covert. I also think these two people that taped this kid did an evil thing but it goes on all the time, especially in college settings where the "really smart" people are. They have to think about this for the rest of their lives. It doesn't look like they were anti-gay, the kid was just tired of not being able to use the room he was paying for because this other kid "needed" to have sex. That's not why people pay to send their kids to school. I think that needs to be addressed too. I also think homosexuals & liberals are exploiting this for political reasons.
Really Mayilyn? You don't buy it? You don't buy that those two disgracful excuses of Human beings streamed someone's PRIVATE intimate encounter on the internet for all the world to see and drove a good, talented kid to suicide?
I guess you are one of those people who doesn't let FACTS get in the way of your opinions.
Right on!~ Why all the focus on a suicidal gay kid when all the bullied suicidal straight kids are ignored by the media? This is pure propaganda by the Libs who want to pervert every aspect of our culture.
What do you mean you don't buy it. Some kid was filmed by a roommate and then broadcast all over campus. He was heckled so much he killed himself. it's a fact, idiot.
my brother is gay. when we were kids i didnt know it. and maby he didnt at the time know it...anyway kids picked on him all the time. the took his bike.i went and fought to get the bike back.i couldnt understand why he would not stick up for himself...this is to all the gays...listen just fight with them..or they wont stop.
If they were kids, then your brother didn't get bullied because he was gay. Kids don't even know what that is. Well, at least until recently when the TV, media & schools decided they need to indoctrinate them. He got bullied because he was a wimp, plain and simple. Sorry but true. Young males will usually pick on wimpy guys or "nerds". What I find offensive is the fact that nobody seems to care about the suicide of heterosexual teens, which are far, far, FAR greater in number, or about bullying of fat kids, skinny kids, shy kids, kids with red hair...whatever
Bullying is all part of life. I was bullied terribly as a child. I was very small for my age and went to public school as most of the kids in my neighborhood went to parochial schools. I remember being tied up to the willow tree in my backyard and being whipped with willow whips as the kids ran past me. Over and over again as they taunted me and called me a Christ killer because my last name is Jewish(even tho I was raised Presbyterian). I never killed anyone, robbed a store or broke any laws because of it. I cried myself to sleep many nights, sucked it up and grew up tougher than most. Call me names now and you won't hurt my feelings, get an earful yes.
Stop the presses! This is the one and only time I have ever, and probably will ever, agree with anything Bill O'Reilly says. These ARE bad kids (kids? They're 18 years old. Time to grow up.) and they should have been raised better. There is NO excuse for what they did, and they absolutely are responsible for the death of Tyler Clementi. It's a shame the law hasn't caught up with technology, but I hope his family sues the sh** out of those 2 AND their parents. NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE BULLIED, NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE OR HOW THEY LIVE!!
This bullying isn't just at the gay & lesbians-so why is the main topic? It is also for being poor, not so good looking, overweight, family bachground and many other things. so why are all the gay & lesbians taking the stage-just gainly more publicity. Let's include the other reasons too. OKay!!!
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PROPAGANDA? GOD I WISH YOU WERE RIGHT...SORRY MARILYN YOU ARE 100% WRONG. PLEASE OPEN YOUR HEART AND MIND TO THE SICK FACTS CONCERNING GAY TEEN SUICIDE.
@MARILYN...You're a F***ing moron, YOU have NO brains WHAT SO EVER!
Marilyn, YOU HAVE ISSUES--OR A STICK UP YOUR BUTT.
BULLYING IS WRONG-IF YOU BULLY STRIAIGHT, GAY, FAT, BESPECTACLED, IRANIAN, IRISH, OR INTROVERTED FOLK.
I HAVE LLIVED IN A NUMBER OF PLACES-N,S, E, W AND MID-WEST. I HAVE LIVED WITH BORN AGAINS AND WITH ATHEISTS AND EVERYTHING INBETWEEN. I AM FAIRLY CONFIDENT IN SAYING THAT GAYS RARELY BULLY STRAIGHT FOLK. YOU, ON THE OTHER HAND, ARE A COVERT BULLY BY BUYING INTO AND SELLING THE IDEA THAT GAYS ARE "BULLYING" THEIR WAY INTO THIS THAT AND THE OTHER.
THEY ARE CALLED RIGHTS, MARULIN- YOU DON;T BULLY YOUR WAY INTO THEM, YOU DEMAND THEM AS A CITIZEN DUE EQUAL RIGHTS. OF COURSE, IF YOU RPEFER TO LET RELIGION RULE HE LAND, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GO TO A COUNTRY THAT BELEIVES IN THAT. SEE HOW YOU LIKE LIVING UNDER SHARIA LAW.
so when is the last time you heard of a football player killing himself becauae a gay person bullied him? get a clue idiot
Bullying has gone on from the beginning of time, Cain killed Abel. As long as there are insecure people there will be bullys & just as Islamic terrorists understand nothing but power, so these bullys understand nothing but a good smackdown. You may cower them into "acting right," but then it only goes covert. I also think these two people that taped this kid did an evil thing but it goes on all the time, especially in college settings where the "really smart" people are. They have to think about this for the rest of their lives. It doesn't look like they were anti-gay, the kid was just tired of not being able to use the room he was paying for because this other kid "needed" to have sex. That's not why people pay to send their kids to school. I think that needs to be addressed too. I also think homosexuals & liberals are exploiting this for political reasons.
Really Mayilyn? You don't buy it? You don't buy that those two disgracful excuses of Human beings streamed someone's PRIVATE intimate encounter on the internet for all the world to see and drove a good, talented kid to suicide?
I guess you are one of those people who doesn't let FACTS get in the way of your opinions.
Right on!~
Why all the focus on a suicidal gay kid when all the bullied suicidal straight kids are ignored by the media?
This is pure propaganda by the Libs who want to pervert every aspect of our culture.
What do you mean you don't buy it. Some kid was filmed by a roommate and then broadcast all over campus. He was heckled so much he killed himself. it's a fact, idiot.
Write a story about Gaaaaayssssssss that bully.
This is soooo slanted and prejudicial and full of bs.
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It's funny you should say that, because SO ARE YOU. You're a sick b***h and one day karma will pay you a visit in repayment for your hatred.
You're absolutely right. Everyone should just look the other way when others are bullied by gays.
Ha.
my brother is gay. when we were kids i didnt know it. and maby he didnt at the time know it...anyway kids picked on him all the time. the took his bike.i went and fought to get the bike back.i couldnt understand why he would not stick up for himself...this is to all the gays...listen just fight with them..or they wont stop.
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If they were kids, then your brother didn't get bullied because he was gay. Kids don't even know what that is. Well, at least until recently when the TV, media & schools decided they need to indoctrinate them. He got bullied because he was a wimp, plain and simple. Sorry but true. Young males will usually pick on wimpy guys or "nerds". What I find offensive is the fact that nobody seems to care about the suicide of heterosexual teens, which are far, far, FAR greater in number, or about bullying of fat kids, skinny kids, shy kids, kids with red hair...whatever
Kathleen is exactly right. Well said, Kathleen.
Excellent Kathleen!
Kathleen is exactly wrong. It is not only wimps who get bullied. It is anyone who does not act like the stereotypical masculine guy.
Bullying is all part of life. I was bullied terribly as a child. I was very small for my age and went to public school as most of the kids in my neighborhood went to parochial schools. I remember being tied up to the willow tree in my backyard and being whipped with willow whips as the kids ran past me. Over and over again as they taunted me and called me a Christ killer because my last name is Jewish(even tho I was raised Presbyterian). I never killed anyone, robbed a store or broke any laws because of it. I cried myself to sleep many nights, sucked it up and grew up tougher than most. Call me names now and you won't hurt my feelings, get an earful yes.
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Stop the presses! This is the one and only time I have ever, and probably will ever, agree with anything Bill O'Reilly says. These ARE bad kids (kids? They're 18 years old. Time to grow up.) and they should have been raised better. There is NO excuse for what they did, and they absolutely are responsible for the death of Tyler Clementi. It's a shame the law hasn't caught up with technology, but I hope his family sues the sh** out of those 2 AND their parents. NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE BULLIED, NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE OR HOW THEY LIVE!!
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This bullying isn't just at the gay & lesbians-so why is the main topic? It is also for being poor, not so good looking, overweight, family bachground and many other things. so why are all the gay & lesbians taking the stage-just gainly more publicity. Let's include the other reasons too. OKay!!!
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The suicide rate for LGBT teens is 4 TIMES HIGHER than it is for straight teens. Maybe that is why it's getting special attention?