Jenny McCarthy's Breakup Came While Writing 'Love, Lust and Faking It'

By Nicki Gostin Posted Oct 11th 2010 10:03AM

Jenny McCarthy's Jim Carrey Breakup Came While Writing 'Love, Lust and Faking It'

In Jenny McCarthy's brazenly outrageous and brutally honest new book, 'Love, Lust and Faking It: The Naked Truth About Sex, Lies and True Romance,' the TV personality and New York Times bestselling author bares all about her failed romances, love of vibrators and boob jobs. But the book isn't just for laughs -- it also offers up some serious advice on relationships and achieving happiness.

What made you decide to write a book about love and sex?
Well, the honest truth is, I need to feed my baby. This is my seventh book and I never quite captured love and romance. I did not plan on going through a breakup while writing the book, it just so happened to be that way. I feel like everything happens for the best reasons. It was to kind of get me to push out some lessons I've learned and maybe inspire some people to either learn to stay in their relationships or learn when to get the heck out.

So you were right in the middle of it when you broke up?
Yes.

Were you like, "This is God's cosmic joke"?
It always is. I was contracted to write a book called 'Life Laughs' the day I found out my son Evan had autism. I had to write a comedic book about how great life is and great my marriage is while I was going through the initial diagnosis of autism. The fact that this happened during that time, I don't think was an accident. I think maybe spiritually I needed to be jolted emotionally to write.

What are your lessons for the gals?
The big one that I learned was that I don't need a lover in my life to have love. That a lot of time we rely on our partners to fill our potholes, if you will, and I really took some time, a few months at least until I hooked up with the next fella. I took some time to not look for an external fix. I kind of sat in my own crap, if that makes sense, and felt everything and found my insecurities and kind of found the little girl and did some self-realization and it did help. That line from 'Jerry Maguire' -- "You complete me" -- may be the worst line ever because we put so much into finding someone to complete us. I've learned come in whole and complete, otherwise you're going to be extremely disappointed.

The book is also funny and naughty.
I have a lot of sexual disaster stories, my love of my vibrator and teddy bear. There's a good mix between my philosophies on love, my lustful fantasies and how to become your own authentic self and maybe for us women to be a little more aware of when we're trying to manipulate our partners.

What are manipulation moves?
The silent treatment and the guilt trip are huge ones. I'm a big calculator. I will make a man prove his love to me by having him maybe do something he doesn't want to do. Fortunately, I woke myself up to it.

So, can you talk about what happened between you and Jim?
There's not really much I can say because I respect his privacy, other than if I blamed him for any part of the breakup, I lose the lesson. You lose the lessons of your last relationship if you put the blame on the other person. We're friendly, we ended in peace.

You say women shouldn't rush into relationships. What happens if they want a little something-something?
I'm all for the booty call. But we have to differentiate between love and lust. I think as women get older they're able to do that, which is why I think cougars have become so popular.

Are you dating now?
I'm having fun. I'm lite-dating. I'm out and about and not counting on anything or anyone.

Any physical attributes that are deal breakers?
I don't care about chubby or bald. I do care about someone who loves themselves completely, that has complete respect for themselves and is on a spiritual journey of always wanting to better who they are.

What happens if you meet someone who loves themselves, is on that journey ... but has a really small penis?
Wow honey, that is a great question! Um, ah, isn't that funny ... I can take bald or chubby; really small penis I can maybe handle if I was really in love with the guy, but he'd have to be really good in other areas, if you know what I mean.

Last thing: Ever been asked to be on 'Dancing with the Stars'?
Yeah, and I won't do it because I can't even do the 'Macarena.'

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Monday 11 October

By Grant

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Jenny, I am really hurt, you stated you don't like baldies (I can't help it) and fatties (I love food).

But I guess I can still dream of you and me walking down the beach together.

By Duane

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Ya have a shot. She said she cares about the person being secure about themselves, that it doesnt matter if they are bald or fat.

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I didn't read that, but I will be happy now, but lets see how many bald fat guys she goes out with who aren't billionaires.

But thanks for the uplift to my day.

By jeffrey lebowski

jennymac is an industrial strength irritant and not even a loon like carrey can stand to be around her for more than five minutes...

By Nico Toscani

You said it. Anybody dumb enough to think Autism can be cured through a no gluten diet must be impossible to live with. F*ck it, let's go bowling.

By kate

I usually don't write in to these articles. But I just have to stay that Jenny makes my skin crawl. I really can't stand her. So glad Jim Carey got rid of her.

By homeexperts

Shes fun, shes bright, shes unique and shes fabulous!! She finally found herself and she should be proud.

By Matt

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I don't buy that.

By Shelly

You should have asked her about all the children dying from illnesses that were pretty much wiped out due to her ridiculous anti-vaccination hysteria.

Don't do that. That would be implying the average Oprah viewer is smart enough to understand how vaccines work.

By Bob

Sound to me like she's in love with eveready batteries.

By CaptainKirk

Jenny is a skank-you think she would have matured and grown by now-not.

By BIG MAMA CORNBREAD

THERE'S NO BUSINESS LIKE SHOW BUSINESS.....THERE'S NO PEOPLE LIKE SHOW PEOPLE...LA LA LA EVERYTHING ABOUT IT SEEMS APPEALING..LA LA LA LA LA LA ...

By Sarita

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Jenny is very beautiful intelligent and a good actress, if she is not longer with Jim is their businnes, she is a good mother and I hope she can sale many books.

Tuesday 12 October

By neilson

I thought it was sail many books

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