Are Hollywood's Single Moms Sending the Wrong Message?

Opting to go it alone is a trend in Hollywood, as stars like
January Jones,
Sandra Bullock, Minnie Driver, Sheryl Crow and Padma Lakshmi have decided to forego the first comes marriage adage and start families on their own. Hats off to these women for forging their singular futures and having the guts to take matters into their own hands without a Prince Charming in the picture.
But do these Hollywood moms, who have millions of dollars, a full staff and unlimited time off make single motherhood look altogether too easy? Could they influence fans to make a similar decision without the resources to back it up?
"Celebrity moms going the single route are glamorizing and glorifying single motherhood," says
Care.com Editor-in-Chief Wendy Sachs. "Their lives are enviable. Their jobs have a built in flexibility. They can nurse babies between takes. They can afford armies of care around the clock and that just isn't the reality for most women. Even though more professional women are having children on their own. It's expensive and exhausting and without lots of support, it can be completely overwhelming."
And when regular moms can't live up to the celebrity standard they often beat themselves up, despite the fact that the celebrity ideal is entirely unrealistic.
"When you see a celeb mom on the cover of a magazine and they look fabulous and are back in their skinny jeans, they make other new moms who haven't showered in a week and are in their sweat pants feel badly about themselves," Sachs adds. "Ultimately, I think it can do more harm than good."
Rarely does a weekly news magazine include pictures of new moms in a state of disarray, pining for sleep and struggling with their weight. Rather we often see stars like Sandra and Sheryl carting their little ones around on set or backstage at a concert. What we also don't see are the armies of support staff huddling in trailers to make that pretty picture possible and who are there to hand the baby off to as soon as the famous mommy needs to get their hair and makeup done or their butt kicked by a personal trainer.
"Motherhood is hard no matter who you are but the helping hands that celebrities have certainly make a difference," says
US Weekly staff writer Ericka Souter. "These Hollywood moms create an illusion that it is easy and women living a normal life in a normal town don't have the same luxuries afforded a celebrity."
Single mom and
Parenting magazine blogger Christine Coppa appreciates the few celeb single moms who are candid about the things in their life that still aren't easy no matter how much money you have.
"Bridget Moynahan is an honest and repeatable celeb single mom. She once described life as a single mom with her son Jack as being 'portable' and said having more kids as a single mom would be hard. I agree and appreciated this comment," Coppa said. Both women have sons named Jack who are 4 years old. "In general I think motherhood is hard to glamorize--we're all wiping butts and noses, and taking it one day at a time."
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Im sure with the exception of January Jones, they keep the nannies employed. Ala Kelly Ripa. They should have a NANNY Club.
Just to stroke their enflated egos.
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this is a dumb article even for popeater!
If you take Hollywood seriously, then you're pretty much screwed.
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That's so true!!!
Of course they are! I have nothing against them for being unmarried mothers, but it wouldn't hurt to mention it's their own choice, but wouldn't advise other single women to follow their lead.
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I don't think Sandra Bullock really counts...she started the adoption process while she was still married (to that loser Jesse James). When he cheated on her, what was she supposed to say..."Oops, sorry I can't adopt that baby now because it would be sending the wrong message to be a single mom"....
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First, the meaning of the word "Star" has been corrupted. Second, finding a donor and having his baby is wrong. Oh, I forgot that most of these women and men have no morals.
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The wrong message? No, its still the same message, and that's okay though, as long as Bullock and Madonna keep their palaces and mansions and servants, because that's what's important in this country.
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grow up being a single parent isn't wrong it's not the 50's anymore. marriage isn't for everyone
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I think we have bigger things to worry about than the 'wrong message' sent by Hollywood's single moms. How about the message sent by the continued adulation and enabling of misogynistic, coke-loving, waste of space known as Charlie Sheen? Now, THAT is a bad message.
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For me, its inspirational!! We don't live in the 1950!! We are in a new era where breaking away from tradition, is the norm. More power to them!!
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So if you really read this article, it is not about single women making bad mothers. Or about celebrity single mom's being capable parents. What it points out is a society scared that women are capable (both financially and emotionally) to achieve their dreams of motherhood without the need of a marriage. In fact the article all but states the need for a man is financial. Are these "Stars" supposed to feel bad because they can afford nannies, fine schools and a plush life without the help of a man? News flash, even the average woman can have the dream of motherhood if single. The lifestyle is just less extravagant. A working woman who uses a nanny or daycare...how is this different from a man working, wife staying home with the kids? (except that she does not get paid). Those who can make an issue about this should also be making an issue about men starting families at 60 years of age. Just cause you can, doesn't mean you should. However there are exceptions to every case.
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You may as well be talking to a wall. Women having a baby out of wedlock care only about what they want. Money makes no differences.
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Kinda letting the men who impregnate them off rather easy, aren't you? Hasty generalization you got there about all those single mothers.
Children having babies in early teens, children using drugs, children killing parents, children killing other children. Dropping out of school. This is the dillema of today. It is a proven fact children need a Mother and a Father in their developement. Having money changes nothing. These women in Hollywood are needy people seeking attention, at any expense.
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I feel that if a person has the money and the ability to raise a healthy, happy child then that's their business! But.... these girls that are living in regular areas that don't have money or even the maturity to raise a child are just plain STUPID! It's disgusting to think that so many people are having UN protected sex in this day and age. Everyone should be well educated on all STDs and of course AIDS being the biggest one. Getting pregnant is the nasty, filty truth that these girls are gross for not making the guy use a condom! YUK!
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This article is totally ill-informed. Wasn't Sandra Bullock married when she and her husband pursued the adoption? And some of these women in relationships when they got pregnant in the first place? And how can you write about women getting their bodies back in shape when celebs like Bullock and Crowe adopted? Also, obviously women who are on the cover of a magazine get all dolled up and don't look like that constantly. I think the American public is smart enough to realize that.
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Stu is short for Stupid !!
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As if the married people in Hollywood are doing such a stellar job. What an idiotic article. These people are not role models; they are entertainers. Quit elevating them to something they are not.
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The Sign of Moral Decay
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